Hi ,
"I should be coping with this."
I hear some version of that a lot. It usually comes from women who are coping with an enormous amount - work, family, parents who need more help than they used to, a house that doesn't run itself - and who have quietly decided the problem is them.
When perimenopause is added to that mix, it can feel as if the ground has shifted. Things you used to handle easily suddenly feel like too much. Because nobody warned you, it's easy to assume you're just not trying hard enough.